◆If you make a mistake in the way you refuse, you will be able to make a mistake in tondemonai.
“Turning down” a requested job is a very difficult act that risks shrinking your potential.
Because if you make a mistake in refusing, you may be able to turn away opportunities by saying that you don’t ask him anymore, that it’s useless to talk to them, and that it’s hard to ask.
That’s why people who earn basically don’t refuse, and pay very much attention to how to refuse.
On the other hand, ordinary people refuse relatively easily, such as “I refrain from this time”. And, it is the one to take an irreverent attitude when I am refused only to the person who is careless in the way of refusing.
My friend’s author is so busy that he is invited to various events and is sometimes filled with seminars, lectures and dinners every day.
He seems to have basically refused to work like that, but when the schedule is bumped or other work is pushing, there is a thing that can not help refusing by all means.
Even for him, the act of refusing is disgusting. It seems to be considerably careful when thinking that it wastes the favor of the other party with great pains, and the other party is disappointed.
So he replied because he made the text of the e-mail that he was “really sorry, but i’m sorry,” but at that time, he said that there were two different responses.
One is a person who does not receive any reply. Even if the answer comes, “It is understood”, and it is not the one that it is casual. “I invited you in-law for the time being, but it might be good, but it’s full of sorry feelings, but it’s not like that,” he said, “i can’t go out with such a person anymore.”
Another reaction was, “I’m very sorry, but let me invite you again. I’m looking forward to seeing you next time,” said a person who replies expressing his desire to see you. He said, “If you say that, you’ll feel like you want to take on it next time.”
The difference in reaction when refused is
It’s a small thing, but it goes without saying that either person can deepen their relationships or dig up opportunities from them.
It is a person who ends up in the ordinary person who does not answer as it is made to be mucky when it is refused. The reason is that the self-centered idea that it becomes grumpy because it is refused while inviting it from me is seen through by the other party.
However, the latter has feelings of gratitude to the other party, “Thanks for examining it in spite of the invitation of selfishness here”. There is imagination which considers other party’s feelings that it might have refused unavoidably.
That makes a difference in business. That is, the difference of the earning power. I think that the potential of human growth can be revealed by how we react when we are refused.
As an aside, Indians basically refuse to do anything other than money. Come to think of it, when I went to India before, when I asked the Indians the way, he looked at the map and said, “Maybe that’s it. No, it might be here.”
I felt like I didn’t know this person, so I tried to raise it, but the Indian said, “Wait a minute,” and started asking another Indian around me.
Then, the Indian gathers fast, and there is an experience that “It is over there” and “No, it is here” and the settlement has become unsettled.
When Asked later, he said, “Indians don’t want to let them down, so they try to answer without knowing it. It’s often wrong, but think of it as indian compassion for others.”
At that time, I thought it was annoying, but the reason why 20% of doctors working in the United States are said to be Indian is not only because of their English skills and math skills, but also because they are excellent in hospitality.
Bun-do Norio (Money Guide)